40 Minutes Changed His Life

Rohit sat at his home desk, grinning. He placed his cup of black coffee carefully on his right, aligned the coaster to sit flush with his brown desk mat.

That’s a little bit OCD, he said in his own breath but that’s how he liked having his coffee, plain black with his coaster aligned to the tee with his desk. He looked at the clock and said, “Hmm, I’ve got a good 40 minutes. Let’s get this going.”

This was standard practice for Rohit. Every single day. Or at least, for the last few years this had been.

He had been taking out time to learn a little bit extra. Whatever he felt he needed at work or in life. He had been consistently investing about 30 to 40 minutes, roughly the time it took him to finish his morning cup of coffee, to learn something new.

Sometimes it was something he needed for work. Like understanding a bit of UX design so he can prepare better collateral or brushing up on his copywriting skills because he had to work on a new ad copy that week.

Sometimes it was just him practicing art, because he loved drawing. He’d always wanted to draw for as long as he could remember. He had loved it as a child too but of course, he couldn’t continue it back then because, engineering.

“Huh! I did that degree but minus the logical thinking I’ve never technically used whatever I learnt in B.Tech”, he would think to himself.

But these days he was mostly happy about all of this. These last few years were the only time he could remember where he’d done art consistently, almost every week.

About 3 years ago he’d heard a couple of people mention it on YouTube, a few entrepreneurs here and there.

Initially, he thought, “Yeah, great. Easy for them to say. They’ve got all the money. They’ve got people to help out. They don’t need to do house chores. They don’t need to prepare breakfast or get the kids ready for school early mornings.”

“They can say all of this. They can lecture all they want. But they don’t really get it, do they?” he had said back then.

But this idea stuck with him. This advice that you should be able to afford 30 minutes a day for your your own growth kept poking at him.

Eventually, he gave up. He started investing in himself.

And over the last few years, he had observed something. His career had taken a totally different trajectory. Not only was he able to connect new things better, he was also able to gain skills consistently. Even though they took much longer than he’d like.

Because of course, he wanted everything today. Actually, he wanted everything yesterday. And he wanted it all with minimal effort.

But then again, that’s not how life works. Does it?

“Anyways, let’s get started,” Rohit said.

Today was special. He was running his first ad campaign for a product he had come up with. He had set up a Shopify store, ad accounts, all the graphics and ad copies.

“Hmm. Let’s go with Instagram and Facebook. Maybe just feed and story ads for now,” he thought.

“And let’s rename this ad campaign.”

Click. Click. Type. Click.

“Hmm,” said Rohit.

Click. Click. Type. Click.

That was him setting up the campaign for himself. Something he had now done hundreds of times. But always for employers. Never for himself.

And precisely because of that he had never felt as excited as he did today.

This one was his.

It wasn’t for a company he barely cared about. Or for a boss he somewhat liked, but not enough to do extra work on a weekend morning before office hours.

And damn, it felt good.

Even though it was just the start.

He knew a lot of ad campaigns don’t go anywhere. They’re trial and error.

And he was okay with it.

“Ad campaigns are trial and error. It’s not a sure shot thing anyway. I’m sure I’ll be able to pick this up. I’m sure if something goes wrong, I’ll be able to make quick changes. Maybe tweak the ad copy. And I’ll get things going.”

So, that’s what he did.

He set up the campaign. For himself.

Click. Click. Type. Click.

The pendulum of work-life balance

For 70 years Queen Elizabeth attended countless ceremonies and parades spending thousands of hours standing straight, with balance.

She said:

One must plant their feet like this. Always keep them in parallel. Make sure your weight is evenly distributed. That’s all there is to it.

Shivam, but what does that have to do with work-life balance?

Well, everything.

Here is a popular myth about work life balance that I think you might have remembered reading about what the Queen said.

Work life balance is all about 50-50. 50% focus on work and 50% focus on life.

Well, you and I both know thats not how the world works. And trying to achieve a 50-50 split is not only a futile effort but also one that will make you sadder. It will take away all the excitement that you have for life and for work.

And we don’t want to be salty people now, do we?

Look, life is uneven, it’s unpredictable. So how can our strategy to deal with it be so “rigid”?

Harvard’s Jeff Karp puts it like this:

I realized that if we start to look at everything in life…like everything is on a pendulum, and you start to step back and visualize that, I think it can be incredibly empowering.

This “pendulum life” is something we have to work with.

The pendulum simply keeps swinging. Sometimes dramatically and sometimes barely. There are weeks when work consumes all our day and goes on well into the nights too.

Your calendar might literally look like a game of tetris. But then there are also times when life wants it all, a sick parent maybe, a kid who needs attention or maybe all we need is simply a little bit of time to breathe.

The swing is natural, its supposed to happen.

And that is exactly what Queen’s advice secretly teaches us. Balance is not about freezing ourselves into a 50-50 state of mind.

It’s about distributing our weight evenly. And the definition of even would change based on where you are standing. Cement floor, slope of a hill, climbing a mountain.

The trick here is being aware of the pendulum. Acknowledge when the pendulum is swinging wide towards work, and when towards life.

Lean into it but also be prepared for the pendulum to swing back to the other end too.

For years my own resistance towards acknowledging the pendulum has caused unnecessary stress affecting life and work. Just by understanding this and focusing on the rhythm we can have the balance we need and truly want.

Balance is not about being still with one thing.

It’s about the sway and a pendulum doesn’t apologize for moving.

Neither should you.